Carly Snyder, MD is a reproductive and perinatal psychiatrist who combines traditional psychiatry with integrative medicine-based treatments. Some even believe that checking out people other than a committed partner is a sure sign of infidelity. The true answer to whether or not this is OK lies with you, your needs, and your personal boundaries. For partners that are bothered by the behavior, having wandering eyes is often described as: A sign of disrespect Insensitive behavior that shows a lack of caring Offensive One of the first signs of cheating and that a person is looking for another relationship Dr. Saltz acknowledges that all humans have some measure of voyeurism and exhibitionism: we like to look and we like to show. But unless both parties are confident of the others' affection and fidelity, an obvious and frequent wandering eye will generally stir up envy and hurt, making one feel unappreciated and even threatened in the relationship. On the other hand, there are people who believe that having a wandering eye is perfectly normal behavior.