Men seem to feel no such pressure. A lot of you guys even seem over-chilled and staunchly committed to basketball shorts despite all sartorial advice. But manchill stops with crushes and with the movie The Dark Knight. Liking someone makes it significantly harder to calm down and avoid coming on too strong, no matter that on any given day, 80 percent of your texts are just the thumbs-up emoji. This phrase is simultaneously a no-pressure invite and a reminder that you do cool things without this person and will be doing things whether they come or not. Otherwise, you'll sound like a dick. Telling people what to do is not hot.